I think of it as ball you never saw coming. The comment in therapy that is simple, unemotional and without much meaning but which changes the course of the theapeutic relationship. Today I experienced this which (thankfully) happens rarely these days. I have a long term relationship with a client which is fruitful, dynamic and meaningful . I have comforted her, challenged her and helped her understand problematic relationships over many months. One session, one comment, suddenly she was offended and embarrassed. Suddenly I went from being "wonderful" to sacked. I had no notion that the comment would mean anything at all let alone that it was somehow loaded with negative meaning for her at that moment. Like I said, I just never saw it coming.
I guess that relationships in general are fraught with moments where one person comments and the other takes offence, while the first hasn't got any idea why. I hope that somewhere down the track the client will see that what happened to me in therapy may have happened to others in her life and may explain some of the strains in relationships. Hopefully she'll see that others are also probalby as mystified as me. There should be a word or a phrase to describe the process of comment, offence, no idea why. Any ideas?
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