Today i met with a wonderful mum who is learnng to live with her daughter. Her daughter has all the markers of a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder; she is hugely unstable emotionally, switches from "loving to hating" in a moment, has intense and often negative romantic emotions and has a history of harming herself. This mum is learning to respond with simplicity, with acceptance and with kindness. She is learning to not "react" to statements or behaviors designed to inflame the situation. She is learning to hold her daughter's emotions "lightly" without becoming emotionally involved with them. She is also learning to protect herself from the hurtful words that come her way. She is learning boundaries. A bit like counselling really...
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thinking about investigating the possibility of a Phd with bullying at the centre of it. I've noticed that in our area bullying is a very significant problem. Our local high school seems to be powerless to stop it. It spills over into inter-family conflict: mum, dad, siblings and even grandma all involved! I wonder if the programs get implemented at all? I also wonder if so much is already known about bullying but it still exists because what is known is not implemented? So what gets in the way of the implementing? i would be interested if any one out there could suggest some recent research.
One of the most important aspects of life as you move through it is your attitude - don't you agree?
Well today I'd like to ask you about your attitude towards the new..
Currently I'm in Durham, England teaching and the whole point of being here and doing this is to bring new experiences into my life. Life is about learning and you can only do that if you push yourself to go where you haven't been before or try things which are new to you. Whenever I get the chance I am visiting new places in order to see and learn more about my country and the world I live in. Not only that but by trying new things I learn more about who I am and what I want.
Are you stuck in a routine? Maybe you feel you are bored..
Seek out new places, new people, new experiences and learn.
You shouldn't fear challenges, you should welcome them and go for it. Likewise change can be stressful at first but can bring variety into your life. Don't fear change but welcome that too.
If you change your attitude today so that you start to seek new opportunities and experiences your life will become so much more rewarding and this will help turn you into a better person.
The world is a fantastic place full of challenge and variety. Don't keep yourself in the safe zone all the time, take a breath and try something new, take the time to learn something new - I guarantee your life will be so much better!
yesterday i experienced one of those moments that therapist live for - a young man who has turned his life around. He came to me with a ten year intravenous drug and alcohol problem. He lived on the streeets intermitently and lived a violent life to get by. He was used a guinea pig for dealers to try out their drugs on before selling them. Not surprisingly he found his way to me via probation and parole. Twelve months on and he is going great guns. More insights than you could ever expect. working on his "hours" for his P's, parenting his children with commitment. Yesterday he made me smile.
My first blogg post. Thought I'd spend some time reflecting on the people who cross my path. My clients provide constant insights. They always have some wisdom to share.
