Generally speaking, I like people a lot. I like hearing their stories, seeing their attitudes and personalities, finding out why people do the things they do. I love hearing all the stories that people have about themselves and their lives.
But, liking people doesn't mean that I always want to be near them. If I see certain traits or types, I have a desire to run away screaming. A type who will try to draw you into any dumb conversation just because they have a need to talk. A type who is critical about everyone and everything with no belief that anything anyone ever does is ever right. Being around certain traits in people drives me nuts.
So, I like people in general, but in person, I'd rather observe quietly!
I think part of this is being an introvert or extrovert. Introverts are best charged up by being alone, while extroverts are charged up being around other people. I have learned a lot of extroverted traits during the years, and am capable of seeming very extroverted for short bursts of time. I think a lot of introverts learn this skill eventually. It's easier and safer in a way to learn how to be extroverted.
I've noticed other introverts, and am always drawn to other introverts at parties. People who are very quiet often think a lot of really cool, interesting things. And if we're stuck in a party situation, then being by yourself is really just going to draw unwelcome attention to you. My skill is talking first, and asking enough questions at the beginning to keep people talking long after I've quieted down.
I don't think it's wrong to like people, but not to like being around people too much. If you're an introvert you need to recharge by doing alone activities. If you are an introvert, you need to allow yourself this time. And if you're an extrovert, have patience with those of us who can't take all the yammering.
And... if it's me yammering, give me 10 minutes - I'll run out of steam in a bit. ;)
I like you. I promise. Now go away!
All best,
Rose
