It's getting close to the holidays, and this is a really big emotional time for a lot of people. Some get profoundly depressed, while others get very excited. For some people, this is the only time of year that people see their families. For others, it means a lot of work for no appreciation.
The media makes it a happy time, but it isn't for most people I know. People drum up false enthusiasm because they feel like they are supposed to. It seems to me that it's easy to feel disappointed in the holidays, partly because, for many, they would like them to look different.
Parents of children, whether young or teenagers, work to make this an especially wonderful time of year for children, who are really the heart of the holidays. Giving gifts to children and watching their joy, is one of the most fulfilling things about this holiday.
I enjoy finding gifts for people, and do my best to get them something they will actually enjoy. It's hard when you've put a lot of effort into thinking of a gift for someone, and they are not happy with it, but really, all you can do is try.
I don't think anyone should force themselves to be enthusiastic. In my opinion, it makes people more miserable in the long run. Yes, you may have to drum up enthusiasm for other people on the day of, but if you're not feeling it, I don't think you should have to fake it before then.
Personally, I'm actually really excited about the holiday this year. Although I wish I could do more, it'll be my first Christmas with my sweetie's family, all of whom are really great people. But holidays haven't always given me something to look forward to, and I know how tough these holidays can be for people--and how many breakdowns occur for people during this month. Hang in there. There are many of us out here who understand.
Best wishes,
Rose
